Giving up the story line?

Being a new writer, I am not sure how much I can say without giving up the entire story. But then, this is one that has been in my mind for a long time, so, in the reality of life, is already "published." So far, I see it as a story about loss, dealing with loss, learning how to move on. But then, the story may end with loss again. Does it end with the fact that the next loss is easier because loving and losing has been learned? Loss is truly never easier, I do not think. So, then, does the story becomes about losing someone that you never knew you cared about, who you never knew cared about you? In my mind there is a certain time that it makes sense to lose someone. While, at the time, you want anything but to lose that person, years later, when you look back, you can see what you learned through the contact you had with that person, and what you learned through the loss of that person. I think that is what this story is about.

I think what the story will truly be about, and what I would like readers to see, is that: everyone you ever encounter will change you. Take what you have learned from having them in your life; don't hold the pain that you feel from their loss, but hold in your heart what they have taught you about living. It has taken me many years to write about loss, and I have taken some liberties with my memories, but I think that it makes for a better story... and one more easily told.